Fear of disobedience
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1 That I am one of those who responded to the commands of Allah and His Messenger
Allah said ( interpretation of the meaning ):
{ And We have enjoined upon man, to his parents, good treatment. His mother carried him with hardship and gave birth to him with hardship, and his gestation and weaning [period] is thirty months }
Quran ( 46 : 15 )
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2 I am keen to do one of the best deeds in the sight of Allah
Narrated Al-Walid bin 'Aizar:
I heard Abi `Amr 'Ash-Shaibani saying, "The owner of this house." he pointed to `Abdullah's house, "said, 'I asked the Prophet ( may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him ) 'Which deed is loved most by Allah?" He replied, 'To offer prayers at their early (very first) stated times.' " `Abdullah asked, "What is the next (in goodness)?" The Prophet ( may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him ) said, "To be good and dutiful to one's parents," `Abdullah asked, "What is the next (in goodness)?" The Prophet ( may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him ) said, "To participate in Jihad for Allah's Cause." `Abdullah added, "The Prophet ( may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him ) narrated to me these three things, and if I had asked more, he would have told me more."
[ al-Bukhari ]
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3 That I will attain the reward of those who strive for the sake of Allah
Abdullah bin 'Amr ( May Allah be pleased with him ) reported that a person came to Allah's Apostle ( may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him ) and sought permission (to participate) in Jihad, whereupon he (the Holy Prophet) said:
Are your parents living? He said: Yes. Thereupon he ( the Holy Prophet) said: You should put in your best efforts (in their) service.
[ Muslim ]
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4 That I will attain the reward of those who strive for the sake of Allah
Abdullah bin 'Amr ( May Allah be pleased with him ) reported that a person came to Allah's Apostle ( may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him ) and sought permission (to participate) in Jihad, whereupon he (the Holy Prophet) said:
Are your parents living? He said: Yes. Thereupon he ( the Holy Prophet) said: You should put in your best efforts (in their) service.
[ Muslim ]
It was narrated that Mu’awiyah bin Jahimah As-Sulaimi said:
“I came to the Messenger of Allah ( may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him ) and said: ‘O Messenger of Allah, I want to go for Jihad with you, seeking thereby the Face of Allah and the Hereafter.’ He said: ‘Woe to you! Is your mother still alive?’ I said: ‘Yes.’ He said: ‘Go back and honor her.’ Then I approached him from the other side and said: ‘O Messenger of Allah, I want to go for Jihad with you, seeking thereby the Face of Allah and the Hereafter.’ He said: ‘Woe to you! Is your mother still alive?’ I said: ‘Yes.’ He said: ‘Go back and honour her.’ Then I approached him from in front and said: ‘O Messenger of Allah, I want to go for Jihad with you, seeking thereby the Face of Allah and the Hereafter.’ He said: ‘Woe to you! Is your mother still alive?’ I said: ‘Yes.’ He said: ‘Go back and serve her, for there is Paradise.’”
[ Sunan Ibn Majah ]
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5 That I acknowledge that they are entitled to my good treatment
Narrated Abu Huraira ( May Allah be pleased with him ):
A man came to Allah's Messenger ( may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him ) and said, "O Allah's Messenger ( may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him )! Who is more entitled to be treated with the best companionship by me?" The Prophet ( may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him ) said, "Your mother." The man said. "Who is next?" The Prophet said, "Your mother." The man further said, "Who is next?" The Prophet ( may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him ) said, "Your mother." The man asked for the fourth time, "Who is next?" The Prophet ( may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him ) said, "Your father. "
[ Al-Bukhari ]
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6 That it is a means for me to be admitted to the Paradise
Abu Hurairah ( May Allah be pleased with him ) reported: The Prophet ( may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him ) said,
"May he be disgraced! May he be disgraced! May he be disgraced, whose parents, one or both, attain old age during his lifetime, and he does not enter Jannah (by rendering being dutiful to them)".
[ Muslim ].
Abud-Darda' ( May Allah be pleased with him ) reported:
A man came to me and said, "I have a wife whom my mother commands me to divorce". I replied him that I had heard Messenger of Allah ( may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him ) saying, "A parent is the best of the gates of Jannah; so if you wish, keep to the gate, or lose it."
[ At-Tirmidhi ]
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7 That I will attain the answered supplication of my father and mother
Abu Hurairah ( May Allah be pleased with him ) reported: The Messenger of Allah ( may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him ) said,
"Three supplications are answered without doubt. The supplication of the oppressed, the supplication of the traveller, and the supplication of the parent for his son."
[ At- Tirmidhi and Abu Dawud ].
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8 That I will realize the pleasure of Allah
Abdullah bin Amr ( May Allah be pleased with him ) narrated that:the Prophet ( may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him ) said:
"The Lord's pleasure is in the parent's pleasure, and the Lord's anger is in the parent's anger."
Jami` [ at-Tirmidhi ]
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9 That Allah will bless my provisions and life
Anas bin Malik ( May Allah be pleased with him ) reported:I heard Allah's Messenger ( may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him ) as saying:
"He who is desirous that his means of sustenance should be expanded for him or his age may be lengthened, let him be dutiful to his parents and maintain the ties of kinship".
[ Muslim ]
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10 That Allah will forgive my sins
'Ata' ibn Yasar said that a man came to Ibn 'Abbas ( May Allah be pleased with him ) and said,
"I asked a woman to marry me and she refused to marry me. Another man asked her and she agreed to marry him. I became jealous and killed her. Is there any way for me to repent?" He asked, "Is your mother alive?" "No," he replied. He said, "repent to Allah Almighty and try to draw near Him as much as you can." So I went and asked Ibn `Abbas why he inquired about the man's mother. He replied: "I don't know of a deed closer to Allah, Exalted and Majestic, other than dutifulness to the mother."
[ Al-Adab Al-Mufrad ]
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11 That I am repaying their favours
Allah said ( interpretation of the meaning ):
{ And your Lord has decreed that you worship not except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], "uff,"1 and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word. And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say, "My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small." }
Quran ( 17 : 23 - 24 )
Allah commanded this kind of dealing with parents to repay their favors, acknowledge the good deeds, and reward kindness with kindness.
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12 That I will reach the Paradise in this world before I die
It was narrated that Mu’awiyah bin Jahimah As-Sulaimi said:
“I came to the Messenger of Allah ( May Allah be pleased with them ) and said: ‘O Messenger of Allah, I want to go for Jihad with you, seeking thereby the Face of Allah and the Hereafter.’ He ( may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him ) said: " ‘Woe to you! Is your mother still alive?’ I said: ‘Yes.’ He said: ‘Go back and serve her, for there is Paradise."
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13 That Allah will relieve my distress
'Abdullah bin 'Umar bin Al-Khattab ( May Allah be pleased with them ) narrated that:
He heard the Messenger of Allah ( may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him ) as saying: "Three men, amongst those who came before you, set out until night came and they reached a cave, so they entered it. A rock fell down from the mountain and blocked the entrance of the cave. They said: 'Nothing will save you from this unless you supplicate to Allah by virtue of a righteous deed you have done.' Thereupon, one of them said: 'O Allah! I had parents who were old, and I used to offer them milk before any of my children or slaves. One day, I went far away in search of grazing and could not come back until they had slept. When I milked as usual and brought the drink I found them both asleep. I hated to disturb them and also disliked to give milk to my children before them. My children were crying out of hunger at my feet but I awaited with the bowl in my hand for them to wake up. When they awoke at dawn, they drank milk. O Allah! If I did so to seek Your Pleasure, then deliver us from the distress caused by the rock'. The rock moved …
[ Al-Bukhari and Muslim ].
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14 That Allah will respond to my supplication
Usair bin Jabir reported that when people from Yemen came to help (the Muslim army at the time of jihad) he asked them:
Is there amongst you Uwais b. 'Amir? (He continued finding him out) until he met Uwais. He said: Are you Uwais b., Amir? He said: Yes. He said: Are you from the tribe of Qaran? He said: Yes. He (Hadrat) 'Umar (again) said: Did you suffer from leprosy and then you were cured from it but for the space of a dirham? He said: Yes. He ('Umar) said: Is your mother (living)? He said: Yes. He ('Umar) said: I heard Allah's Messenger ( may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him ) say: There would come to you Uwais b. Amir with the reinforcement from the people of Yemen. (He would be) from Qaran, (the branch) of Murid. He had been suffering from leprosy from which he was cured but for a spot of a dirham. His treatment with his mother would have been excellent. If he were to take an oath in the name of Allah, He would honour that. And if it is possible for you, then do ask him to beg forgiveness for you (from your Lord). So he (Uwais) begged forgiveness for him. Umar said: Where do you intend to go? He said: To Kufa. He ('Umar) said: Let me write a letter for you to its governor, whereupon he (Uwais) said: I love to live amongst the poor people. When it was the next year, a person from among the elite (of Kufa) performed Hajj and he met Umar. He asked him about Uwais. He said: I left him in a state with meagre means of sustenance. (Thereupon) Umar said: I heard Allah's Messenger ( may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him ) as saying: There would come to you Uwais b. 'Amir, of Qaran, a branch (of the tribe) of Murid, along with the reinforcement of the people of Yemen. He had been suffering from leprosy which would have been cured but for the space of a dirham. His treatment with his mother would have been very kind. If he would take an oath in the name of Allah (for something) He would honour it. Ask him to beg forgiveness for you (from Allah) in case it is possible for you. So he came to Uwais and said.: Beg forgiveness (from Allah) for me. He (Uwais) said: You have just come from a sacred journey (Hajj) ; you, therefore, ask forgiveness for me. He (the person who had performed Hajj) said: Ask forgiveness for me (from Allah). He (Uwais again) said: You have just come from the sacred journey, so you ask forgiveness for me. (Uwais further) said: Did you meet Umar? He said: Yes. He (Uwais) then begged forgiveness for him (from Allah). So the people came to know about (the status of religious piety) of Uwais. He went away (from that place). Usair said: His clothing consisted of a mantle, and whosoever saw him said: From where did Uwais get this mantle?
[ Muslim ]
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15 That I will be safe from the wrath asked from Allah by both Gabriel and the Messenger of Allah
Abu Huraira ( May Allah be pleased with them ) reported Allah's Apostle ( may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him ) as saying:
" Let him be humbled into dust; let him be humbled into dust. It was said: Allah's Messenger, who is he? He said: He who sees either of his parents during their old age or he sees both of them, but he does not enter Paradise. "
[ Muslim ]
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16 That I will be safe from the wrath asked from Allah by both Gabriel and the Messenger of Allah
Abu Huraira ( May Allah be pleased with them ) reported Allah's Apostle ( may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him ) as saying:
" Let him be humbled into dust; let him be humbled into dust. It was said: Allah's Messenger, who is he? He said: He who sees either of his parents during their old age or he sees both of them, but he does not enter Paradise. "
[ Muslim ]
It is narrated on the authority of 'Abdur-Rahman bin Abu Bakra ( May Allah be pleased with them ) that his father said:
We were in the company of the Messenger of Allah ( may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him ) that he observed: Should I not inform you about the most grievous of the grave sins? (The Holy Prophet) repeated it three times, and then said: Associating anyone with Allah, disobedience to parents, false testimony or false utterance. The Prophet was reclining, then he sat up, and he repeated it so many times that we wished that he should become silent.
[ Muslim ]
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17 That my children will treat me kindly
One reaps what he sows.
We must contemplate the verse which means
{ An appropriate recompense. }
Quran ( 78 : 26 )
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18 Allah does not accept the deeds of the one who is undutiful to his parents
Abu Umamah ( May Allah be pleased with him ) reported Allah's Apostle ( may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him ) as saying:
" there are three categories of people from whom Allah will accept neither repentance nor a ransom on the Day of Resurrection; the one who is undutiful to his parents, the one who reminds people of what he has given them and the one who declares Allah’s decree to be false."
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19 Allah will not look at the undutiful one and he will not enter the Paradise
It was narrated from Salim bin 'Abdullah that his father ( May Allah be pleased with him ) said: "The Messenger of Allah ( may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him ) said:
"There are three at whom Allah will not look on the Day of Resurrection: The one who disobeys his parents, the woman who imitates men in her outward appearance, and the cuckold. And there are three who will not enter Paradise: The one who disobeys his parents, the drunkard, and the one who reminds people of what he has given them."'
[ an-Nasa'i ]
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20 He will not enter the Paradise
It was narrated from 'Abdullah bin 'Amr ( May Allah be pleased with him ) that: The Prophet ( may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him ) said:
"No one who reminds others of his favors, no one who is disobedient to his parents and no drunkard, will enter Paradise."
[ an-Nasa'i ]
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21 His deeds will be fruitless
‘Amr ibn Murrah reported: A man came to the Prophet ( may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him ) and he said,
“O Messenger of Allah, what do you think if I testify there is no God but Allah and you are the Messenger of Allah, I perform the five prayers, I pay the obligatory alms, I fast the month of Ramadan and stand for prayer in it. Among whom will I be?” The Prophet said, “Among the truthful and the martyrs on the last day.” He drew his forefinger and middle finger near each other while narrating it then added " unless he is undutiful to his parents"
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